All your limitations are a choice. Self-imposed. Let that sink in for a moment. What have you chosen to accept as your reality?
Today, during my life coaching session, I faced this truth head-on. Life coaching isn’t easy, but that’s exactly why I value it. Each session strips away the excuses I’ve been holding onto, clears the mental fog, and forces me to look at my choices. Not the ones I’ve made for convenience or comfort, but the ones that silently reinforce the limitations I’ve decided to live by. We all it "The Bulshit".
The biggest realisation for me has been this:
I am in control.
Every thought, action, and emotion is my choice. Yes, there are triggers, habits, and patterns I’ve learned over time, but even those are within my power to acknowledge, challenge, and change. That’s the thing about limitations—they only exist because I allow them to.
And the same goes for you.
Breaking Free From Self-Imposed Limitations
If all your limitations are a choice, then the good news is this: you can choose differently. But how? It starts with three key steps:
1. Identify Your Choices
The first step is shining a light on the choices you’re making every day. What have you allowed into your life that doesn’t align with your goals or values? These don’t have to be monumental things; even the small, daily habits can quietly reinforce your limits.
Ask yourself:
What am I choosing to prioritise over what truly matters?
What drains my emotional energy instead of fuelling it?
What habits are taking a toll on my physical or mental health?
For me, it’s been things like scrolling on my phone instead of working on my goals, saying “yes” to obligations out of guilt, or indulging in habits that don’t align with my health. These might seem minor, but they add up to a reality I’ve chosen—whether consciously or not.
2. Own Your Choices
This is where it gets uncomfortable. It’s easy to point fingers at external circumstances, but the truth is, you’re the one making the call. Owning your choices means taking responsibility for what you’ve allowed into your life—even the things you’ve let slide by default.
For example:
“I don’t have time” might really mean “I’m choosing not to make time.”
“This stresses me out” could mean “I’m choosing not to set boundaries.”
When I realised this, I saw how much power I had been giving away. Ownership isn’t about blaming yourself—it’s about recognising that if you’re making the choice, you can also make a different one.
3. Make a New Choice
This is where freedom begins. Once you’ve identified and owned your current choices, you can start making new ones. This doesn’t mean overhauling your entire life overnight; it’s about small, intentional shifts.
Choose to spend five minutes journaling instead of scrolling.
Choose to say “no” when something doesn’t align with your goals.
Choose to approach challenges as opportunities for growth instead of obstacles.
Each new choice is a vote for the life you want to create.
You Are in Control
Your limitations are not set in stone. They’re not written into your DNA or decided by the universe. They are choices—yours and yours alone.
And the beautiful thing about choices? You can always make a different one.
So, what will you choose today?
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